The boys are going on four weeks of using the Swedish Rosetta Stone, and they are making remarkable progress. It is truly amazing how 5 to 10 minutes of lessons each day can have such an impact. They are internalizing the language rapidly.
That very impact has made me realize how a daily dose of indoctrination of the world, through history and science classes in public school, and even children's literature, can have a huge impact on our children. It puts them in a very uncomfortable duplicitous mindset and thinking. As Christians they believe that God is their creator, but in order to pass their classes, they need to respond to questions and read assignments that has the agenda of teaching, and the underlying assumption, of evolution. It does not take them long to deny or question creationism and believe in evolution, for no other reason than that they are repeatedly being taught that it is truth by authority figures and possibly being mocked if they offer their belief as an answer. (As a public school teacher, I was privy to hearing this mocking in the teacher's lounge time and time again.)
Know this first of all, that in the last days mockers will come with their mocking, following after their own lusts, 2 Peter 3:3
I share this with you so that you can be there to support your child(ren) and help them deal with this contradiction and to strengthen their faith and belief system.
A few mornings ago my husband sent me this video clip of Bill Nye: Bill Nye: Creationism Is Not Appropriate For Children One of his colleagues (a biology teacher) sent it to him trying to change my husband's beliefs… The clip is creepy and should be a concern for all Christian parents. Nye offers no proof of his beliefs only scapegoating and condemnation of parents with a statement that the United States needs our children. Bill Nye is worshipped in the world of science education and, according to my youngest son, his videos are used as part of science classes in elementary school. He has an agenda!
To Creationists, Bill Nye says, "And I say to the grown ups, if you want to deny evolution and live in your world, in your world that's completely inconsistent with everything we observe in the universe, that's fine, but don't make your kids do it because we need them. We need scientifically literate voters and tax payers for the future. We need people that can, we need engineers that can build stuff, solve problems."
He even blames us for holding people back by not believing in evolution. As parents we are condemned and blamed for the lack of scientific progress.
Notice that he ends by saying, "There's no evidence for it."
The evidence for creationism is endless, Bill Nye. And, the most beautiful thing is that none of creation evidence needs to be fabricated. Just look at the fraudulent evolution evidence that continues to be displayed in museums and our textbooks to prove evolution. Haeckel's drawings of embryos to prove evolution were faked, and these very drawings that he admitted, in the late 1800s, to faking, could still be found in textbooks as proof of evolution. Why? Or Marsh's made up table of horse evolution that continued to be used in textbooks and the Chicago Field Museum, even after it was found to be a fraud, as proof of evolution. Why? How about the peppered moths? They were glued onto a tree to prove a theory. Why? In addition, creationism does not need to use "circular reasoning" to explain time such as dating fossils by rocks and dating rocks by fossils or dating strata by bones and bones by strata; we can look to the Bible for creation, time and fossils. We can explain fossils by the flood and time by simply reading the genealogy of the bible.
Bill Nye, perhaps you need to have a scientific debate with Ken Ham or Kent Hovind.
And, Bill Nye, you may continue to believe your religion but, with all due respect, you may not have my children, nor will I ever tell them that it is okay for them to deny their creator just so they can follow the religion of evolution, for the sake of our country. They are citizens of heaven first. Perhaps what our country needs most right now is to return to a moral compass based on God's word, which is how it was started… Or, perhaps we could simply start by eliminating all the false evidence and illogical proof for evolution--let's look at the facts and truth.
See to it that no one takes you captive through philosophy and empty deception, according to the tradition of men, according to the elementary principles of the world, rather than according to Christ. Colossians 2:8
The coming of the lawless one will be in accordance with how Satan works. He will use all sorts of displays of power through signs and wonders that serve the lie, and all the ways that wickedness deceives those who are perishing. They perish because they refused to love the truth and be saved. For this reason God sends them a powerful delusion so that they will believe the lie and so that all will be condemned who have not believed the truth but have delighted in wickedness.
2 Thessalonians 2:9-12
Thursday, August 30, 2012
Wednesday, August 29, 2012
Sourdough Loaf--Yum!
In order to follow His lead, and focus on going back to basics in every aspect of our life, we have changed some of our eating habits. We are slowly but surely returning to traditional ways of eating and cooking. Our focus is on real foods--avoiding the modern processed foods as best we can.
Today I made this beautiful loaf with my sourdough starter. Through trial and error (especially varying temperature and times), and mentoring from my beautiful sister in Christ, Carol, I think I have it figured out. On a weekly basis, I make sourdough English muffins, crackers, bread, and pancakes.
Today I made this beautiful loaf with my sourdough starter. Through trial and error (especially varying temperature and times), and mentoring from my beautiful sister in Christ, Carol, I think I have it figured out. On a weekly basis, I make sourdough English muffins, crackers, bread, and pancakes.
The recipe for Sourdough No Knead Method is so easy--the baker even shows step by step through a video tutorial!
Happy Baking!
Tuesday, August 28, 2012
An Inspiring Potpourri of Topics
Reading blog posts on marriage, parenting, homeschooling, and even nourishment is truly inspiring. I hope you, too, will enjoy some of the recent ones I have read.
Marriage:
How Does Your Garden Grow?
Mothering:
Being a Thermostat Mom
Sibling Relationships:
Building Family Relationships: Helping Siblings Bond
Discipling:
Child Training Bible (Review)
Allowances:
Ways For Kids To Earn Money Around The House
Conversation With Your Children:
The Topic of Conversation
I am also incredibly encouraged and inspired by the Food Renegade:
Food Resources
Marriage:
How Does Your Garden Grow?
Mothering:
Being a Thermostat Mom
Sibling Relationships:
Building Family Relationships: Helping Siblings Bond
Discipling:
Child Training Bible (Review)
Allowances:
Ways For Kids To Earn Money Around The House
Conversation With Your Children:
The Topic of Conversation
I am also incredibly encouraged and inspired by the Food Renegade:
Food Resources
Monday, August 27, 2012
Don't Think It's Too Late
I am so inspired by this amazing post, Homeschooling: It's Never Too Late to Start. It truly touched me and confirmed what I have been feeling these past three weeks. Not only that, it really made me think about our oldest son and his future in public school.
Whether you homeschool or not, I assure you, this is a post worth reading and sharing with others.
Whether you homeschool or not, I assure you, this is a post worth reading and sharing with others.
Saturday, August 25, 2012
Follow Up: Dating or Courting?
After reading my post Dating or Courting?, one of my friends tried to comment and share some information. Unfortunately it did not post, so she emailed me instead. Caroleen is truly a Titus 2 lady, and I am incredibly thankful for her! Her mentoring, guidance, and wisdom is such a blessing as we continue on this journey of parenting and homeschooling.
Bravo, I am also studying more about courtship vs dating for training my children in God's ways. It is important for us as parents to help our children set the boundaries in relationships before their hormones kick in.
A tool we have used with our children to introduce this subject is called Passport to Purity by Dennis and Barbara Rainey. It is designed to do with your children from as early as 8-12 years old. It is a time for mom to get away with the daughter and for dad to get away with the son. This does not mean that mom can't talk to their sons nor fathers to their daughters, because it is important for both parents to train their children in this important area.
Blessings on you and your family as you continue to train and disciple your children in the Word of God.
Have a blessed day,
Caroleen
Bravo, I am also studying more about courtship vs dating for training my children in God's ways. It is important for us as parents to help our children set the boundaries in relationships before their hormones kick in.
A tool we have used with our children to introduce this subject is called Passport to Purity by Dennis and Barbara Rainey. It is designed to do with your children from as early as 8-12 years old. It is a time for mom to get away with the daughter and for dad to get away with the son. This does not mean that mom can't talk to their sons nor fathers to their daughters, because it is important for both parents to train their children in this important area.
Blessings on you and your family as you continue to train and disciple your children in the Word of God.
Have a blessed day,
Caroleen
Friday, August 24, 2012
Right Here, Right Now
As I was looking up some scripture yesterday in my NLT Life Application Study Bible, I came across Numbers 9:23. So they camped or traveled at the LORD's command, and they did whatever the LORD told them through Moses.
Because it is a study bible, I read the application at the bottom…
9:23 The Israelites traveled and camped as God guided. When you follow God's guidance, you know you are where God wants you, whether you are moving or staying in one place. You are physically somewhere right now. Instead of praying, "God, what do you want me to do next?" ask, "God, what do you want to do with me while I'm right here?" Direction from God is not just for your next big move. He has a purpose in placing you where you are right now. Begin to understand God's purpose for your life by discovering what he wants you to do right now!
Wow! God was speaking to me, to our family, and my prayers certainly need to change.
Because it is a study bible, I read the application at the bottom…
9:23 The Israelites traveled and camped as God guided. When you follow God's guidance, you know you are where God wants you, whether you are moving or staying in one place. You are physically somewhere right now. Instead of praying, "God, what do you want me to do next?" ask, "God, what do you want to do with me while I'm right here?" Direction from God is not just for your next big move. He has a purpose in placing you where you are right now. Begin to understand God's purpose for your life by discovering what he wants you to do right now!
Wow! God was speaking to me, to our family, and my prayers certainly need to change.
Thursday, August 23, 2012
Whose Desire?
Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path. Psalm 119:05
So, how do we truly know if we are on His path and following His lead?
This is a question I have long pondered and truly struggled with. Years ago one of my dear friends explained it very simply. She illustrated the picture of God planting a seed of His will in our hearts--explaining that His will continues to grow to the point where it becomes our heart's desire. That made sense.
Well, ok, but what if our heart's "desire" is to have an affair, buy the newest "whatever" using credit, buy a house that can only be afforded with two incomes, spend more time out with friends than at home, have plastic surgery, or pursue a career? At least one of those sounds terrible, but what about the rest?
How do we actually know if that very desire we are experiencing is God's will or Satan trying, through worldly desires, to distract us or cause havoc in our lives? Simple. If your desire is God's will, it will always line up with His word. Seeking His word before making decisions will make it crystal clear.
If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. James 1:5
I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you. Psalm 32:8
Opening up and seeking trusted godly advice helps us discern whether it is God's will or a worldly desire we are feeling.
The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice. Proverbs 12:15
Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisors they succeed. Proverbs 15:22
However, we are warned in Colossians 2:8, See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forces of this world rather than on Christ.
With that in mind, we must not treat the bible as a buffet of sorts, picking and choosing the verses that fit only our desires and pridefully calling the rest dated or not applicable. Boy, I have I been down that road! But, now My soul is consumed with longing for your laws at all times.
Open my eyes that I may see wonderful things in your law.
I am a stranger on earth; do not hide your commands from me.
My soul is consumed with longing for your laws at all times.
You rebuke the arrogant, who are accursed, those who stray from your commands.
Psalm 119:18-21
So, how do we truly know if we are on His path and following His lead?
This is a question I have long pondered and truly struggled with. Years ago one of my dear friends explained it very simply. She illustrated the picture of God planting a seed of His will in our hearts--explaining that His will continues to grow to the point where it becomes our heart's desire. That made sense.
Well, ok, but what if our heart's "desire" is to have an affair, buy the newest "whatever" using credit, buy a house that can only be afforded with two incomes, spend more time out with friends than at home, have plastic surgery, or pursue a career? At least one of those sounds terrible, but what about the rest?
How do we actually know if that very desire we are experiencing is God's will or Satan trying, through worldly desires, to distract us or cause havoc in our lives? Simple. If your desire is God's will, it will always line up with His word. Seeking His word before making decisions will make it crystal clear.
If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. James 1:5
I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you. Psalm 32:8
Opening up and seeking trusted godly advice helps us discern whether it is God's will or a worldly desire we are feeling.
The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice. Proverbs 12:15
Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisors they succeed. Proverbs 15:22
However, we are warned in Colossians 2:8, See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forces of this world rather than on Christ.
With that in mind, we must not treat the bible as a buffet of sorts, picking and choosing the verses that fit only our desires and pridefully calling the rest dated or not applicable. Boy, I have I been down that road! But, now My soul is consumed with longing for your laws at all times.
Open my eyes that I may see wonderful things in your law.
I am a stranger on earth; do not hide your commands from me.
My soul is consumed with longing for your laws at all times.
You rebuke the arrogant, who are accursed, those who stray from your commands.
Psalm 119:18-21
Wednesday, August 22, 2012
Submission--God's Perfect Design
How are you intentionally rejecting the world?
Since I posed that question in the post Intentional Rejection, I have been thinking about my own response. Of course there are the obvious answers (most of which I have shared in other posts), but the most personal one is that of submitting to my husband. For so long I have bought into the feminist and world's view on women's roles, that it has caused some friction in my own marriage. You see, when Eve was tempted by the serpent, ate the forbidden fruit and offered it to her husband, something changed. At that very moment when Adam and Eve did not follow God's command, something changed. In Genesis 3:16-17, God is clear in His words:
To the woman he (God) said,
"I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."
To Adam he said,
"Because you listened to your wife and ate fruit from the tree about which I commanded you, 'You must not eat from it,'
"Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat from it all the days of your life.
When we do not follow God's word, His commands, we suffer. When we take on the world's view of marriage and the roles of husband and wife, we reject God's design and perfect plan. God specifically says, "and he will rule over you." In a marriage, the husband is the head. In fact, we are to submit to our husband as Paul writes in Ephesians 5:22-24.
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Oh, how this world wants to make us think that submitting to our husband is a terrible thing. That by doing so would somehow put us on a level of slavery. We think that by willingly and obediently submitting to our husband means that we have less of a value. No, we are deceived by the world's values in thinking so. That is worldly thinking. Paul also goes on to say in verse 33:
However, each of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
How beautiful is that verse. Ultimately, it shows the love and respect between a husband and wife--it truly is a perfect design. God created marriage--the world didn't. And, in that creation, He put the husband as the head of the household, and we are to submit to his will in everything. Sometimes this takes great strength and courage for wives, but it is ultimately an act of faith.
When I felt lead to homeschool our children, I explained to my husband what God had put on my heart. I shared scripture, and we each prayed a lot about it. During this time, I became so convicted to homeschool our boys and become the keeper of our home, but I knew that my husband had the final say. Ultimately it was his decision whether it would happen or not. So often, as wives, we don't take the time to share our thoughts, feelings, and convictions with our husbands; we need to. But, once you have shared your feelings, you must simply submit and respect his decision. 1 Peter 3:1-2 illustrates this so well.
Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.
So, as we continue on this journey, I am intentionally submitting to my husband, in everything, as he is the head of our marriage. I know I am not perfect and will stumble at times, but when we set out to grow in Christ there will be temptation. The freedom and peace that has come from following God's command to submit to my husband has been beautiful. My submission shows my respect for him. He deserves that respect. He is an amazing man who continually pours out his unending love for me. God's design for marriage is so perfect!
Since I posed that question in the post Intentional Rejection, I have been thinking about my own response. Of course there are the obvious answers (most of which I have shared in other posts), but the most personal one is that of submitting to my husband. For so long I have bought into the feminist and world's view on women's roles, that it has caused some friction in my own marriage. You see, when Eve was tempted by the serpent, ate the forbidden fruit and offered it to her husband, something changed. At that very moment when Adam and Eve did not follow God's command, something changed. In Genesis 3:16-17, God is clear in His words:
To the woman he (God) said,
"I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."
To Adam he said,
"Because you listened to your wife and ate fruit from the tree about which I commanded you, 'You must not eat from it,'
"Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat from it all the days of your life.
When we do not follow God's word, His commands, we suffer. When we take on the world's view of marriage and the roles of husband and wife, we reject God's design and perfect plan. God specifically says, "and he will rule over you." In a marriage, the husband is the head. In fact, we are to submit to our husband as Paul writes in Ephesians 5:22-24.
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Oh, how this world wants to make us think that submitting to our husband is a terrible thing. That by doing so would somehow put us on a level of slavery. We think that by willingly and obediently submitting to our husband means that we have less of a value. No, we are deceived by the world's values in thinking so. That is worldly thinking. Paul also goes on to say in verse 33:
However, each of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
How beautiful is that verse. Ultimately, it shows the love and respect between a husband and wife--it truly is a perfect design. God created marriage--the world didn't. And, in that creation, He put the husband as the head of the household, and we are to submit to his will in everything. Sometimes this takes great strength and courage for wives, but it is ultimately an act of faith.
When I felt lead to homeschool our children, I explained to my husband what God had put on my heart. I shared scripture, and we each prayed a lot about it. During this time, I became so convicted to homeschool our boys and become the keeper of our home, but I knew that my husband had the final say. Ultimately it was his decision whether it would happen or not. So often, as wives, we don't take the time to share our thoughts, feelings, and convictions with our husbands; we need to. But, once you have shared your feelings, you must simply submit and respect his decision. 1 Peter 3:1-2 illustrates this so well.
Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.
So, as we continue on this journey, I am intentionally submitting to my husband, in everything, as he is the head of our marriage. I know I am not perfect and will stumble at times, but when we set out to grow in Christ there will be temptation. The freedom and peace that has come from following God's command to submit to my husband has been beautiful. My submission shows my respect for him. He deserves that respect. He is an amazing man who continually pours out his unending love for me. God's design for marriage is so perfect!
Tuesday, August 21, 2012
A Beautiful Testimony--Part 2
Wow! Crystal's conclusion post, The LORD's Providence--Part 2, really touched me. Her words, through God's word, spoke to me and stung. How long have I hung on trying to be in control and live by our world's standards? I am emotional this morning but incredibly thankful to have surrendered and taken the leap of faith to follow His lead. We, as a family, are on His path. Our creator's word is truth, and He alone knows what is best for us.
Monday, August 20, 2012
A Beautiful Testimony--Part 1
What a beautifully written testimony Crystal shares in her post! It is honest, heartfelt, encouraging, and truth. The LORD's Providence Part 1
Sunday, August 19, 2012
Divine Calling
Just the other day William said to me, "Mom, I wish we had started homeschooling earlier." I knew exactly how he felt. I feel the same way! But, I know that God's timing is perfect and that the past has all led up to this change. I am convinced that homeschooling is a divine calling.
But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it, and how from infancy you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.
2 Timothy 3:14-17
When we seek our God-breathed scripture for our decision-making, we find God's will for our life. If you had asked me a year ago, what I thought of homeschooling, I would have given you an earful based on secular reasoning. In fact, I remember having a conversation with one of my dear friends at least ten years ago (before I became a Christian) about homeschooling. She said that she believed it was biblical and that's what her and her husband were thinking about (how wise she was and still is). I told her, get this, that God's word on homeschooling was dated and didn't apply to modern day, after all, the bible was written so long ago. When I think back to that conversation, I realize how much work God has done in my life. I am certainly growing in Christ Jesus. The Holy Spirit is in me and has opened my eyes to the living and infallible word of God.
For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. Hebrews 4:12
Because I taught in public schools for thirteen years, I know what actually goes on in the classrooms and in the hallways, day in and day out. Homeschooling is so different. These are the most beautiful gifts I have experienced while homeschooling:
Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and will all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the door frames of your houses and on your gates. Deuteronomy 6: 4-9
My prayer is not that you take them out of the world but that you protect them from the evil one.
John 17:15
Listen, my son, to your father's instruction and do not forsake your mother's teaching.
Proverbs 1:8
But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it, and how from infancy you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.
2 Timothy 3:14-17
When we seek our God-breathed scripture for our decision-making, we find God's will for our life. If you had asked me a year ago, what I thought of homeschooling, I would have given you an earful based on secular reasoning. In fact, I remember having a conversation with one of my dear friends at least ten years ago (before I became a Christian) about homeschooling. She said that she believed it was biblical and that's what her and her husband were thinking about (how wise she was and still is). I told her, get this, that God's word on homeschooling was dated and didn't apply to modern day, after all, the bible was written so long ago. When I think back to that conversation, I realize how much work God has done in my life. I am certainly growing in Christ Jesus. The Holy Spirit is in me and has opened my eyes to the living and infallible word of God.
For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. Hebrews 4:12
Because I taught in public schools for thirteen years, I know what actually goes on in the classrooms and in the hallways, day in and day out. Homeschooling is so different. These are the most beautiful gifts I have experienced while homeschooling:
- We have more time to spend in His word. They are growing in Christ!
- Christ is the center of their education--they don't have to learn history or science with our creator taken out being replaced by false theories and teachings (No school is religiously neutral--even public schools).
- There is less stress, and they are enjoying their school work.
- Our day is very fluid and we are not under a state mandated timeline.
- There is no "homework" (ironic)--when they are done with their work, they are done.
- We can accomplish so much in less time (NO time wasted on disciplining kids).
- My boys are not exposed to bullies and can be free to be who they are. I can tell they are at such peace in their own skin.
- They can learn at their own level (and own style)--not waste time waiting for others to catch up or feel stressed because they are behind. NO IEP or 504 needed in a homeschool!
- My boys are not feeling peer-pressure to: have the newest whatever, wear the newest styles, and act in ways that simply do not glorify God.
- They are eating and helping make healthy home-cooked lunches everyday.
- They are not exposed to girls who wear too little clothing just to keep up with the peer pressure of today's fashion. On a daily basis I saw girls who wore shorts that looked more like underwear or tops that exposed their cleavage. My husband and I want our boys to respect women not learn to lust after them. More on this topic in another post!
- They are helping with chores and learning life skills.
- Both of them are very active everyday--riding their bikes, swimming, and playing sports out back.
- They are not fighting--they actually enjoy each other's company. That is huge!
- They are both taking Swedish.
- We can go on field trips or look up things on the internet whenever we want.
- They can do their lessons anywhere--at the dining table, the couch, the stairs, outside, at Chick Fil-A, at a fellow homeschooling family's house, or on the bed.
Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and will all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the door frames of your houses and on your gates. Deuteronomy 6: 4-9
My prayer is not that you take them out of the world but that you protect them from the evil one.
John 17:15
Listen, my son, to your father's instruction and do not forsake your mother's teaching.
Proverbs 1:8
Saturday, August 18, 2012
Dating or Courting?
Dating…is that really right around the corner for our oldest son? After reading this post, I realize that dating might just be one of those temptations of the world that we need to actively reject or at least question. Just because the world says that dating and "living a little before you settle down" is just what you do, does not mean it is biblical? God's word is so good; it is timeless and perfect. He knows what is best for us and tells us in His word. Since my husband and I want to disciple our children in the word of God, we must know what is truth. So, what does God, not the world, say about dating? Courtship? Purity?
Well, first of all why even question it? Is dating safe? Is there a risk involved in dating (as we know it today)? Might it put our young in a position where they are tempted (lust of the flesh) to not remain pure?
How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word.
I seek you with all my heart; do not let me stray from your commands.
Psalm 119: 9-10
In order for a young person to stay on the path of purity he or she must follow God's commands. What are these commands?
It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in a passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, and in purity. 1 Timothy 4:12
So, how as parents can we prepare our sons and daughters for the inevitable temptation to be impure? Perhaps starting by looking what God says about sex… Our children need to understand God's will and commands in order to follow them. We cannot tip toe around these issues just because the world is saying something else. Or avoid truth because we made our own mistakes and lived by the world's standards. This is our chance to train our children the way they should go.
Start children of on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. Proverbs 22:6
In Galatians we are clearly informed that if we live by gratifying the desires of the flesh, we will not inherit the kingdom of God.
So I say, walk in the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit was is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God. Galatians 5: 19-21
Sharing what a beautiful gift sex is, and helping our children understand that it is meant for marriage, will certainly help guide the conversation about remaining pure and the temptations that will inevitably come about during dating.
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:24
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and the sexually immoral. Hebrews 13:4
But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 1 Corinthians 7:2
With His truth, then, being clearly defined in scripture, we come back to dating. A guiding light in our life has been to live according to His word, and not by worldly expectations and "norms." Dating today does not have the same intention as courtship once did. The original purpose of courtship was marriage. Dating today is recreational and seems to include the expectation of sexual relations. Is that what we, as Christians, want for our sons? No! We want them to learn biblical truths and therefor focus, one day, on "courting" not "dating," in order to honor God by staying pure for their future wife. What a gift to their marriage!
Well, first of all why even question it? Is dating safe? Is there a risk involved in dating (as we know it today)? Might it put our young in a position where they are tempted (lust of the flesh) to not remain pure?
How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word.
I seek you with all my heart; do not let me stray from your commands.
Psalm 119: 9-10
In order for a young person to stay on the path of purity he or she must follow God's commands. What are these commands?
It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in a passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, and in purity. 1 Timothy 4:12
So, how as parents can we prepare our sons and daughters for the inevitable temptation to be impure? Perhaps starting by looking what God says about sex… Our children need to understand God's will and commands in order to follow them. We cannot tip toe around these issues just because the world is saying something else. Or avoid truth because we made our own mistakes and lived by the world's standards. This is our chance to train our children the way they should go.
Start children of on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. Proverbs 22:6
In Galatians we are clearly informed that if we live by gratifying the desires of the flesh, we will not inherit the kingdom of God.
So I say, walk in the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit was is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God. Galatians 5: 19-21
Sharing what a beautiful gift sex is, and helping our children understand that it is meant for marriage, will certainly help guide the conversation about remaining pure and the temptations that will inevitably come about during dating.
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:24
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and the sexually immoral. Hebrews 13:4
But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 1 Corinthians 7:2
With His truth, then, being clearly defined in scripture, we come back to dating. A guiding light in our life has been to live according to His word, and not by worldly expectations and "norms." Dating today does not have the same intention as courtship once did. The original purpose of courtship was marriage. Dating today is recreational and seems to include the expectation of sexual relations. Is that what we, as Christians, want for our sons? No! We want them to learn biblical truths and therefor focus, one day, on "courting" not "dating," in order to honor God by staying pure for their future wife. What a gift to their marriage!
Wednesday, August 15, 2012
Intentional Rejection
Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them. For everything in the world--the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life--comes not from the Father but from the world. The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever.
1 John 2:15-17
As our pastor spoke on this verse in his sermon on Sunday, I felt even greater confirmation that we are on the right track as a family. While we are journeying into an unknown, we are comforted in knowing that we are following His will and not the world's will. It is not easy being up against the world and its, as our pastor put it, "values, pleasures, aspirations, false philosophies, and false systems that are opposed to God."
What good will it be for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul? Or what can anyone give in exchange for their soul?
Matthew 16:26
When we allow the temptations and desires ("values, pleasures, aspirations, false philosophies, and false systems that are opposed to God") of the world into our homes, we are in constant battle. Our home is clearly our greatest mission field.
I love how young blogger, Bria Crawford, puts it in a recent blog post. She is so wise beyond her age--what a gift!
The temptations of the world surround us; they are part of our every day life and in our very own mission field. In fact, the world has conditioned us to accept and even justify them; we have become more and more desensitized. But we must, as Christians, intentionally reject the world and its desires on a daily basis.
Just as the serpent craftily convinced Eve to eat the forbidden fruit in Genesis 3:1-5, the world is constantly seducing us to eat the "fruit" of the world.
Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the LORD God had made. He said to the woman, "Did God really say, 'You must not eat from any tree in the garden'?"
The woman said to the serpent, "We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, but God did say, 'You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.'"
"You will not certainly die," the serpent said to the woman. "For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil."
How are you intentionally rejecting the world?
1 John 2:15-17
As our pastor spoke on this verse in his sermon on Sunday, I felt even greater confirmation that we are on the right track as a family. While we are journeying into an unknown, we are comforted in knowing that we are following His will and not the world's will. It is not easy being up against the world and its, as our pastor put it, "values, pleasures, aspirations, false philosophies, and false systems that are opposed to God."
What good will it be for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul? Or what can anyone give in exchange for their soul?
Matthew 16:26
When we allow the temptations and desires ("values, pleasures, aspirations, false philosophies, and false systems that are opposed to God") of the world into our homes, we are in constant battle. Our home is clearly our greatest mission field.
I love how young blogger, Bria Crawford, puts it in a recent blog post. She is so wise beyond her age--what a gift!
I have the biggest opportunity to serve every day right in my home. My family is in a season of many little ones right now, and this is the time that I am needed most. These are the days I am daily called to die to self. And I’ll admit it is hard sometimes. Rejecting fleshly nature does not come without great sacrifice, prayer, and discipline.
My home is no less a mission field than an orphanage in Africa.
The temptations of the world surround us; they are part of our every day life and in our very own mission field. In fact, the world has conditioned us to accept and even justify them; we have become more and more desensitized. But we must, as Christians, intentionally reject the world and its desires on a daily basis.
Just as the serpent craftily convinced Eve to eat the forbidden fruit in Genesis 3:1-5, the world is constantly seducing us to eat the "fruit" of the world.
Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the LORD God had made. He said to the woman, "Did God really say, 'You must not eat from any tree in the garden'?"
The woman said to the serpent, "We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, but God did say, 'You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.'"
"You will not certainly die," the serpent said to the woman. "For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil."
How are you intentionally rejecting the world?
Monday, August 13, 2012
Our Homeschool Journey Is Underway
We are officially a week into homeschooling, and I have to say that it is truly nothing short of incredible. Just today we were able to read scripture, talk about our prayers, finish a writing lesson, and start our ancient history book. The boys also did their math review and new lessons, and they each completed one Swedish lesson and read from their silent reading books. Both of the boys are motivated, working hard, enjoying their time with each other, and helping with chores and home cooked lunches. They are both visibly happy, and I am so overwhelmingly grateful that God called me to do this.
I know that nothing is perfect, but I realize now how flawed the public school system is. While every effort is made to "differentiate" for students at varying levels, the system itself is still an institution that has a "one size fits all" mentality. How can it not? Standardized tests drive teaching and educational decisions. Today, so much focus is placed on what students don't know or have not accomplished according to the mold. Unfortunately teachers are stressed (which is passed on to the students) because they have a long list of standards to teach in too short amount of time. Teachers are also under extreme pressure to make sure their students achieve these standards--ones that have been determined by people who are so disconnected with the classroom. And, class sizes are too large which makes it incredibly hard for teachers to truly get to know or meet the individual needs of each student. In the past few years, I became more and more concerned, as both a teacher and a parent, and was hoping that a reform was on the horizon…none came. I knew we could not wait any longer. We needed to do what was best for our two youngest boys.
Homeschooling offers so much…the opportunity to meet your child's individual needs, strengths, and desires, protect them from the negative social influences, teach based on your family's worldview, focus on developing a love of learning rather than learning just to pass the test, spend more quality time together developing relationships, and simply to teach life skills. What a powerful opportunity we have as parents when we choose to homeschool.
Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. Proverbs 22:6
In closing, I read this blog post today and watched the video. Boy did the post strike a chord, and the video certainly opened my eyes--what a valuable perspective. I see some of these amazing entrepreneurial traits in my own children, and now I realize how powerful it would be to nurture these traits as we continue on our homeschool journey.
I know that nothing is perfect, but I realize now how flawed the public school system is. While every effort is made to "differentiate" for students at varying levels, the system itself is still an institution that has a "one size fits all" mentality. How can it not? Standardized tests drive teaching and educational decisions. Today, so much focus is placed on what students don't know or have not accomplished according to the mold. Unfortunately teachers are stressed (which is passed on to the students) because they have a long list of standards to teach in too short amount of time. Teachers are also under extreme pressure to make sure their students achieve these standards--ones that have been determined by people who are so disconnected with the classroom. And, class sizes are too large which makes it incredibly hard for teachers to truly get to know or meet the individual needs of each student. In the past few years, I became more and more concerned, as both a teacher and a parent, and was hoping that a reform was on the horizon…none came. I knew we could not wait any longer. We needed to do what was best for our two youngest boys.
Homeschooling offers so much…the opportunity to meet your child's individual needs, strengths, and desires, protect them from the negative social influences, teach based on your family's worldview, focus on developing a love of learning rather than learning just to pass the test, spend more quality time together developing relationships, and simply to teach life skills. What a powerful opportunity we have as parents when we choose to homeschool.
Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. Proverbs 22:6
In closing, I read this blog post today and watched the video. Boy did the post strike a chord, and the video certainly opened my eyes--what a valuable perspective. I see some of these amazing entrepreneurial traits in my own children, and now I realize how powerful it would be to nurture these traits as we continue on our homeschool journey.
Saturday, August 11, 2012
Priorities of Time
Can I just say that life has never been this good??!! Despite, or perhaps because of, our dark (or red) financial outlook, I am at such peace and feel such contentment with the direction of our life. I am so incredibly thankful to be a wife to an amazing man, a homemaker, and a homeschooling mom. If you had asked me a year ago what I would be doing now, I never would have pictured this life. Following God's lead is nothing short of amazing!
Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us, Ephesians 3:20
The changes in our family life are beautiful! One of the greatest gifts has been that of time. Time to focus on my husband, time to be there for my children, time to make healthy meals, time to teach my children valuable lessons, time to keep our home clean and organized, time to meditate on God's word… Time is truly the greatest gift we can give and receive.
Just the other day, I truly experienced the wonder of this gift. After a morning of lessons, I suggested that the boys go swimming. Our youngest asked me to go in the pool with them. I told him that I did not really want to and had things to do (email, Facebook, and Pinterest). He was heart-broken and reminded me that I had promised to go the next time they went swimming. I stopped, took a deep breath, and thought… Wow! First of all, what lesson would I be teaching him if I did not keep my promise? Secondly, what was truly more important, at that very moment, that I could not put off to spend time playing in the pool with my precious boys? I went for it! What a sweet hour I had thinking of nothing but the two of them as we played in the pool. That time was a gift to all three of us.
That very afternoon, Collier came home from his first day of 8th grade exhausted and emotional. In addition to a long day, he had just had his first football practice and was dehydrated and nauseous. I decided to focus entirely on him. For the next hour, I gave him my undivided attention. During that time, I was able to comfort and feed him, get him organized for school, and listen to everything he had to say. I experienced seeing the transformation of this weary teenager into a laughing and joyful young man. What a gift I was able to give my child. Time is simply priceless!
Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from Him. Psalm 127:4
I am so grateful to be a mother! But, it is only by God's grace that I am the mother I am today. He has helped me understand where my priorities of time should be and what my Godly purpose is.
Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us, Ephesians 3:20
The changes in our family life are beautiful! One of the greatest gifts has been that of time. Time to focus on my husband, time to be there for my children, time to make healthy meals, time to teach my children valuable lessons, time to keep our home clean and organized, time to meditate on God's word… Time is truly the greatest gift we can give and receive.
Just the other day, I truly experienced the wonder of this gift. After a morning of lessons, I suggested that the boys go swimming. Our youngest asked me to go in the pool with them. I told him that I did not really want to and had things to do (email, Facebook, and Pinterest). He was heart-broken and reminded me that I had promised to go the next time they went swimming. I stopped, took a deep breath, and thought… Wow! First of all, what lesson would I be teaching him if I did not keep my promise? Secondly, what was truly more important, at that very moment, that I could not put off to spend time playing in the pool with my precious boys? I went for it! What a sweet hour I had thinking of nothing but the two of them as we played in the pool. That time was a gift to all three of us.
That very afternoon, Collier came home from his first day of 8th grade exhausted and emotional. In addition to a long day, he had just had his first football practice and was dehydrated and nauseous. I decided to focus entirely on him. For the next hour, I gave him my undivided attention. During that time, I was able to comfort and feed him, get him organized for school, and listen to everything he had to say. I experienced seeing the transformation of this weary teenager into a laughing and joyful young man. What a gift I was able to give my child. Time is simply priceless!
Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from Him. Psalm 127:4
I am so grateful to be a mother! But, it is only by God's grace that I am the mother I am today. He has helped me understand where my priorities of time should be and what my Godly purpose is.
Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Set the Tone
Inspired by my last bible study meeting, I thought I would share some parenting words of wisdom…ones I am intentionally implementing daily.
Our speaker from last week, I believe it was Paula, spoke on discipline and parenting. Here are some beautiful words of wisdom from this veteran mom of four:
Listen, don't just react.
Anger is not discipline--remain calm and assertive.
In order to be an effective and loving mom, you must first be a devoted daughter (to Christ).
Have your Mary moment before you have your Martha day.
Be on the same page as your hubby.
Demonstrate your own self-control.
Use the phrase "Before fun, get something done."
Keep a tight leash on what comes into your home.
Have consistent rules.
Your kids do not control how your house is run.
Such a beautiful gift, these words of wisdom. I am inspired by them all, but the one that really stood out for me at the time was "Demonstrate your own self-control." If we want our children to demonstrate self-control, then we need to be the example. Just because we had a bad day, are frustrated or impatient, are PMSing, or have a headache, does not give us the right or excuse to subject our family to our anger or frustration. We need to set the tone for our family and glorify God.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
Galatians 5:22-23
Whoever speaks, is to do so as one who is speaking the utterances of God; whoever serves is to do so as one who is serving by the strength which God supplies; so that in all things God may be glorified through Jesus Christ, to whom belongs the glory and dominion forever and ever. Amen.
1 Peter 4:11
Our speaker from last week, I believe it was Paula, spoke on discipline and parenting. Here are some beautiful words of wisdom from this veteran mom of four:
Listen, don't just react.
Anger is not discipline--remain calm and assertive.
In order to be an effective and loving mom, you must first be a devoted daughter (to Christ).
Have your Mary moment before you have your Martha day.
Be on the same page as your hubby.
Demonstrate your own self-control.
Use the phrase "Before fun, get something done."
Keep a tight leash on what comes into your home.
Have consistent rules.
Your kids do not control how your house is run.
Such a beautiful gift, these words of wisdom. I am inspired by them all, but the one that really stood out for me at the time was "Demonstrate your own self-control." If we want our children to demonstrate self-control, then we need to be the example. Just because we had a bad day, are frustrated or impatient, are PMSing, or have a headache, does not give us the right or excuse to subject our family to our anger or frustration. We need to set the tone for our family and glorify God.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
Galatians 5:22-23
Whoever speaks, is to do so as one who is speaking the utterances of God; whoever serves is to do so as one who is serving by the strength which God supplies; so that in all things God may be glorified through Jesus Christ, to whom belongs the glory and dominion forever and ever. Amen.
1 Peter 4:11
Monday, August 6, 2012
Divine Purpose
Over the past seven weeks, I have felt more and more of a need to express my thoughts about an idea that has been rattling around in my head--one that threw me for a loop at first. So, here goes…
What do you think of when you hear the term "civilized"? It has a positive connotation, right? Perhaps it sounds intelligent and progressive. How about when you hear the term "primitive"? Perhaps a bit negative? Too simple, uncivilized, uneducated? Very few of us know about the Carlisle Indian Industrial School that was open during the late 1800s through the early 1900s. The purpose of the school was to "civilize" Indians, our Native Americans. In other words, make them "white" and rid them of their native culture--their primitive ways. While you may not have heard of this school, you are likely familiar with the societal moves against American Indian culture at the turn of the 20th century and their effects.
Well, I believe another culturally destructive movement has been happening--the purposeful elimination of the homemaker. As each decade passes, it seems that it is less and less socially acceptable to be a homemaker. In fact, many of us were taught, and we are now teaching our daughters that "women can and should do it all," independence is important, being a stay-at-home mom has no value and is not intellectually stimulating, and that working as a professional will fulfill you and give you a sense of accomplishment. The consequence of this "progress for women" is a lack of commitment to our husbands, home, and children, and that our needs and success, as women, are more important than the home. So much of our identity these days lie in the response to the question, "So, what do you do?"
Earlier this summer, I joined a bible study group for homeschooling moms at our church called "A Divine Look at Motherhood." As one of the speakers was sharing her story, she said something that spoke to me and really made me think. She said that she felt blessed that she never had the temptation to have a career. Wow! What? I am well-educated and had a career for well over a decade. I never thought of having a career as a temptation, but I get it now. It is crystal clear. It is a temptation to shift your focus and take you away from your divine purpose--the home.
The older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things--that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. Titus 2:3-5
Ultimately when we are not fulfilling our divine and most primitive purpose, we will experience turmoil and heartache as a mother. Husbands and fathers do not feel that tug or magnetic draw to the home. We do. We do for a reason. We do because it is our calling. Our creator knew what He was doing when He gave Adam a companion and helper. When we find our identity in Christ, our life makes sense. When we look at our divine purpose rather than fulfilling our own needs and desires, our life makes sense and we find contentment.
The effects of "civilizing" Native Americans more than a century ago are prevalent and well documented. Among them are alcoholism, abuse, unemployment, suicide, and diabetes.
What are the effects of less and less homemakers? More and more professional women who spend very limited time with their husbands and children and barely have time to be keepers of their home? Is that documented? Perhaps the high rate of divorce? Depression? Troubled children and youth? Obesity? Well, first off, research focused on this topic would certainly open a can of worms and rub many the wrong way. But, seriously, as Christians we are instructed And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect. Romans 12:2
I leave you with, hopefully, inspiration to fulfill your divine purpose. "A devoted daughter (of the Lord) creates a loving mother." These are such inspiring words shared by one of our bible study speakers. Being a devoted daughter means being obedient to God's will and purpose for our lives, not what society tells us we should or can do. When we try to "do it all," our homes get the short end of the stick. Doesn't the high calling of wife and mother deserve our entire focus?
A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:10-12
She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: Proverbs 31:25-28
While my husband and I do not have daughters, we will certainly be raising our boys to respect, honor and encourage their wives to fulfill God's divine purpose as a wife and mother.
For more inspiration, I encourage you to read this amazing story.
What do you think of when you hear the term "civilized"? It has a positive connotation, right? Perhaps it sounds intelligent and progressive. How about when you hear the term "primitive"? Perhaps a bit negative? Too simple, uncivilized, uneducated? Very few of us know about the Carlisle Indian Industrial School that was open during the late 1800s through the early 1900s. The purpose of the school was to "civilize" Indians, our Native Americans. In other words, make them "white" and rid them of their native culture--their primitive ways. While you may not have heard of this school, you are likely familiar with the societal moves against American Indian culture at the turn of the 20th century and their effects.
Well, I believe another culturally destructive movement has been happening--the purposeful elimination of the homemaker. As each decade passes, it seems that it is less and less socially acceptable to be a homemaker. In fact, many of us were taught, and we are now teaching our daughters that "women can and should do it all," independence is important, being a stay-at-home mom has no value and is not intellectually stimulating, and that working as a professional will fulfill you and give you a sense of accomplishment. The consequence of this "progress for women" is a lack of commitment to our husbands, home, and children, and that our needs and success, as women, are more important than the home. So much of our identity these days lie in the response to the question, "So, what do you do?"
Earlier this summer, I joined a bible study group for homeschooling moms at our church called "A Divine Look at Motherhood." As one of the speakers was sharing her story, she said something that spoke to me and really made me think. She said that she felt blessed that she never had the temptation to have a career. Wow! What? I am well-educated and had a career for well over a decade. I never thought of having a career as a temptation, but I get it now. It is crystal clear. It is a temptation to shift your focus and take you away from your divine purpose--the home.
The older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things--that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. Titus 2:3-5
Ultimately when we are not fulfilling our divine and most primitive purpose, we will experience turmoil and heartache as a mother. Husbands and fathers do not feel that tug or magnetic draw to the home. We do. We do for a reason. We do because it is our calling. Our creator knew what He was doing when He gave Adam a companion and helper. When we find our identity in Christ, our life makes sense. When we look at our divine purpose rather than fulfilling our own needs and desires, our life makes sense and we find contentment.
The effects of "civilizing" Native Americans more than a century ago are prevalent and well documented. Among them are alcoholism, abuse, unemployment, suicide, and diabetes.
What are the effects of less and less homemakers? More and more professional women who spend very limited time with their husbands and children and barely have time to be keepers of their home? Is that documented? Perhaps the high rate of divorce? Depression? Troubled children and youth? Obesity? Well, first off, research focused on this topic would certainly open a can of worms and rub many the wrong way. But, seriously, as Christians we are instructed And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect. Romans 12:2
I leave you with, hopefully, inspiration to fulfill your divine purpose. "A devoted daughter (of the Lord) creates a loving mother." These are such inspiring words shared by one of our bible study speakers. Being a devoted daughter means being obedient to God's will and purpose for our lives, not what society tells us we should or can do. When we try to "do it all," our homes get the short end of the stick. Doesn't the high calling of wife and mother deserve our entire focus?
A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:10-12
She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: Proverbs 31:25-28
While my husband and I do not have daughters, we will certainly be raising our boys to respect, honor and encourage their wives to fulfill God's divine purpose as a wife and mother.
For more inspiration, I encourage you to read this amazing story.
Sunday, August 5, 2012
The Rewards of Following
Our homeschooling journey has begun, and I am truly overflowing with joy. I feel so at peace--such a sense of calm and excitement, not to mention incredibly encouraged and inspired. Just a few days ago, I received a call from our local homeschooling group, CHET-NW, and was welcomed to this new journey with such love by a veteran homeschooling mom. The outpouring of support, love, and encouragement has been incredible. I feel so blessed to be on this journey and know that it feels so right because it is God's will for our life.
For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God.
Romans 8:14
My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.
John 10:27
Following is not easy--we are taught early on that paving our own road and relying on our own strength is the key to success. However, choosing to rely on our Lord by listening and following Him is the ultimate measure of strength. The rewards of following are far more beautiful than what the world deems as success.
For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God.
Romans 8:14
My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.
John 10:27
Following is not easy--we are taught early on that paving our own road and relying on our own strength is the key to success. However, choosing to rely on our Lord by listening and following Him is the ultimate measure of strength. The rewards of following are far more beautiful than what the world deems as success.
Saturday, August 4, 2012
Delinquent . . .
A few days ago we found out that in order to even be considered for a short sale, our bank wants us to be 60 days late on our house payment. Honestly, I just don't understand this system that seems to have no desire to work with honest and responsible couples. Of course we could have never anticipated that our home would be worth less than what we bought it for (and put into it) nine years ago (before the boom). But, I am at peace and comforted by the fact that we are on God's path. I know things will work out.
Perhaps this is also a lesson for us…if we had stayed in our first house we purchased in 1997, we most certainly would not be in this predicament. Upgrading and increasing is what we all do, right?! Well, for us, that took away freedoms…the freedom to make decisions that are best for our family. Living on one small salary, and being content with what God provides, is our priority.
The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender.
Proverbs 22:7
So, here we go…this will be month one of being delinquent…
Perhaps this is also a lesson for us…if we had stayed in our first house we purchased in 1997, we most certainly would not be in this predicament. Upgrading and increasing is what we all do, right?! Well, for us, that took away freedoms…the freedom to make decisions that are best for our family. Living on one small salary, and being content with what God provides, is our priority.
The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender.
Proverbs 22:7
So, here we go…this will be month one of being delinquent…
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